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Cookie Cutter Love by dammitMEL Cookie Cutter Love by dammitMEL
I severely dislike this shot. I'll redo it another day.


I like the idea that nothing is "cookie cutter." Especially when it comes to love. Love isn't the same for everyone. It could be a range of many things.

I'm not looking for critique on this. I'm looking for YOUR opinion on love and what it means to you. Have you ever felt love?

Personally? My answer is no. I have been loved and have loved someone else, but I have never been IN love.
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tsumeslash Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
this is a cute photo in my opinion :)

Love, to me, is not the stereotype it has been made out to be. Love is finding an imperfect person and seeing them perfectly. Love is still wanting to be with that person when you realize they are completely different from the structure you imagined. Love happens by chance and is a feeling that has to grow and be nurtured into something bigger than what was being felt in the beginning. Because, obviously, there is no such thing as love at first sight. That is what lust is. Which is why i must say that it is not a matter of age in knowing your feelings (addressing 'kids dont know love' issue), it's common sense. Love makes your tummy do back-flips and your pulse faster and slower at the same time; It makes you feel a whole range of emotions and makes everything brighter because it is in your life. Lust makes your pulse more palpable between your legs.
And there is a difference between love and being IN love. You LOVE your father, you aren't IN love with him. I'm not sure I've ever been IN love. I have loved, though. I love my girlfriend of what will be 6 months on the 28th, but I feel that it is too soon to say I'm in love with her. Being in love is too strong a feeling for a time so short (to me it is at least).
There's more I'd like to say, but it's stuck deep in my head and I just can't, for the life of me, figure out how to find and unravel the words.
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LOVEmeDEATH Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2010
I totaly think this is brilliant.
like it.!
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dammitMEL Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2010
Thanks! :D
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viic92 Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2008   Photographer
this is an awwsome shot.
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you should be proud..

i am curious to know, how do you get sooo many page views?
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dammitMEL Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2008
I'm active on the site and I hang out in the chatrooms a lot. :)

Thank you for the :+fav: on this shot!
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naturesounds Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2008  Hobbyist Photographer
This has been featured here ------> [link]
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Royce-Barber Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2008
This art piece is about what love means to everyone, right? Well... Love is whatever you make of it.

Kids don't know what love is.
Few adults really mature into knowing either.
No one has the same idea of love.
Very few people really experience fantasty-story love on an intimate level for more than a few weeks.
It's just something you run into, and hope for the best, but you really don't have time to hope, because it all goes by so fast.
It takes ballance...and that ballance, that stability, can come to anyone when they really need it. It's like how someone who dislikes cats can become a cat lover the very instant they see that cuddely ball of furr just for them.

No one can plan out their future, as they don't even know who they'll be a day from now.
We are living creatures, all connected in a billion ways, and experiencing reality really quite differently.
Love is one of a rainbow of feelings, but it overides all logic, and is the master feeling. It's better than anything on this earth, and I don't think humans really feel love on this earth. I think somehow the feeling of love seeps in from another place. Maybe another time. We experience the ripple of happiness and peace when a drop of love comes into our world. It's not always comfortable, either. We often severly fight with those we love...and later on in life regret pushing them away so much.


I can't explain love any better than anyone else. It's a mystery and it has no answer. It's infinate. When you find out what is outside of this universe, and beyond that, and how far the expanse of space really goes - then you'll know love...because you'll miss Earth, and in some way we love earth just as much as any relationship.

I love you as a good friend, and I'm just starting to find out who you are. I feel that you'll understand all that I'm saying here.

Melli, you will fall in love, if you truely haven't already. I just hope you're ready for it when it happens. It's bewildering. It makes people change, and do crazy things. It makes people say things they aren't sure if they should...when they aren't supposed to...and it's hard to hold back sometimes... It's really hard to hold back.

*Hugs*
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dammitMEL Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2008
I read all of that and I was blown away that you would spend so much time putting your thoughts into my work. I appreciate every word and unfortunately, I would love to reflect on all of it right now, but I'm off to work. I will give you a more intensive reply when I get home, I promise.
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Royce-Barber Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2008
im sorry i left out something big... im not sure how to explain it. do you want to know...
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dammitMEL Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2008
Sure, if you feel like explaining it.
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Royce-Barber Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2008
Hmm.

Melli I don't know how to say it, so I'll just blurt it out... Unorganized as my thoughts are.

Not everyone is meant to be married. That is all I wanted to say. Sometimes cookie cutter love ends in the cookies being burnt. :( Now I'll try to explain some of it, although it's not a topic I'm comfortable it. I may believe certain things, but that doesn't mean I WANT to believe them.

Not everyone is meant to date or have any relationship of any kind. I firmly believe this. On the surface it sounds cruel and unjust, but just trust me... Some people are best off being single. Not having lust, not having sex, not even kissing. No one should ever lust, it only causes harm. Certain emotional freedoms can restrict and limit the natural flow of life. Such as improper anger and jealousy.

Don't get me wrong... I think most people ARE meant to be married. But there are those who would only harm themselves in a marriage. Those who might even seem like stable people, who just aren't able to live with another person.

I also believe that those who are divorced should never again be married. Not even have the slightest thought of it. There may be a rare exception, but I do not know of any. I have personal reasons for this. One being that marriage is so sacred that it can only happen once, unless the mate dies.

You can make up your own mind about all of this... But know that it's okay to be single. It's better to be single and have not had your heart broken, than to have gone through divorce. Some people are just not meant for marriage.

There is nothing wrong in having higher priorities than having a mate, but there are very few priorities that can possibly be higher.

All that messiness said, I think you are meant for love. If you ever doubt that, you need to find a way to love yourself first. Personally I don't love myself as much as I should...and I regret that.
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dammitMEL Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2008
I somewhat agree. I know some people probably aren't cut out for it, but I don't believe either of us are one of those people. :shrug: I don't need to dwell on things that make me upset haha.
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Royce-Barber Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2008
Thank you Melli. :)
I needed your optimism to steer me back to happy land. :D

I feel like you and I have the right kind of heart to take care of people.

For now I'm kind of jelous of those with pretty families...i COVET like crazy in this mannor. I WANT A FREAKIN FAMILY so damn bad. I even know it's a sin to want someone elses family...ive seen some really cool families.
It just takes being ones self and being social...until you meet that special someone.

until meeting a special person (IN PERSON), live free and wild babeh! within moral guidelines, but those allow for immense fun to be had :D

so who knows. but it's gonna be awesome nomatter what happens!
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Royce-Barber Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2008
Mel, take your time. No rush to respond, and you don't have to compete with the lenth of what I write. Sometimes I'm really quiet, so it all averages out. Just know that I really enjoy writing to you, and communicating with you. You understand the things I say, and that is pretty freakin awesome. :D If you do want to respond with some length, I really would enjoy that too. So whatever you do, just let it be natural and feel it from your heart. <3
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tori-margaret Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2008
:faint: i like cookies
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dammitMEL Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2008
ME TOO!
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LadyLincoln Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2008  Hobbyist Writer
Well...that is an interesting question.

I've had attractions, attachments with love, attachments without love - and all of that confusing mess in between. Right now, I should say that I am deeply in love...and know that there is a strong difference between that, and what I thought was love in the past.

Taken altogether - a real love is so deep that it cannot be defined.
So strong that you feel swept away by it...and so real that you cannot ever imagine your life without it.
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dammitMEL Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2008
The way you described it makes me really excited to think that I might have that one day!
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TThealer56 Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2008
My, what a cynical bunch!
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I've been in infatuation
I've loved, and not been loved in return
I've been loved and not loved in return
I've loved, and been loved in return
I Love, and receive Love in return.
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krazy378cuti Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2008
love wat a cruel thing i got over the fact that luv can either tear u apart or keep givin fake luv when it gets anoyying
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dakth Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2008
If there's one thing I've learned in life so far, it's that one shouldn't make confines as to what they'll experience love-wise. Anything is a possibility in this random fuckbucket we call earth.

Love is a special thing. Different to everyone, but universal in all.
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dammitMEL Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2008
I've never thought about it like that. Thank you! This is why I love this community. I learn so much.
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Plushie-chan Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2008
I've been in love, I THINK, but that was the only time, so I haven't yet seen if each love is like the last. I can't imagine that it would be because each person is so different. But... that feeling of being in love was so strong that sometimes I can still feel it today... a year later. And it makes me cry.

I miss her SO much.
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Boxymoron Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2008
Nyeh, love.

I'm not entirely sure what love is. Sure, I love my parents and (to a lesser extent) my siblings. I care about them, but I don't know what being in love is about. I really, really don't. :confused:

I've had feelings for another person, but I'm thinking that it was more 'lust' than anything else, as said feelings are all but gone. (I still think about her from time to time, wondering what she's up to, etc.)

:shrug:
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Royce-Barber Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2008
awwe i love you boxy
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Boxymoron Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2008
:o Eeeeep!
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dammitMEL Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2008
Same. I've had strong attraction. I didn't know you have siblings! :aww:
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Boxymoron Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2008
:bucktooth: we're not really close. :shrug:
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dammitMEL Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2008
I'm sorry to hear that. =/
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Boxymoron Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2008
yeah...:shrug:
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